Comments on: Balls All Over the Floor http://behindthegrammar.com/2008/05/balls-all-over-the-floor/ To Infinitives and Beyond! Sun, 01 Apr 2012 15:49:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: fm lyons http://behindthegrammar.com/2008/05/balls-all-over-the-floor/comment-page-1/#comment-45 fm lyons Sat, 13 Sep 2008 21:25:37 +0000 http://behindthegrammar.com/?p=10#comment-45 When I see a spade I call it a spade. This is my problem because I have no tolerance for LIARS. In my personal life when I have to live within a relationship that has a liar. I point out the obvious infraction at the scene of the lie and after a little squirming I end it by saying, "That is a lie!" or "You are a liar!" He then becomes angry because I have embarrassed him in public. Imagine that, humph! In a business situation when people don't follow through and/or lie to me for fear of losing my job or leaving a bad impression I 'shine it on', act like it didn't happen, ignore it in other words I allow myself to be verbally abused hence setting a trend for future lies and bad business relationships. Think about it. When I see a spade I call it a spade.
This is my problem because I have no tolerance for LIARS. In my personal life when I have to live within a relationship that has a liar. I point out the obvious infraction at the scene of the lie and after a little squirming I end it by saying, “That is a lie!” or “You are a liar!” He then becomes angry because I have embarrassed him in public. Imagine that, humph!
In a business situation when people don’t follow through and/or lie to me for fear of losing my job or leaving a bad impression I ‘shine it on’, act like it didn’t happen, ignore it in other words I allow myself to be verbally abused hence setting a trend for future lies and bad business relationships. Think about it.

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]]> By: paulie walnuts http://behindthegrammar.com/2008/05/balls-all-over-the-floor/comment-page-1/#comment-13 paulie walnuts Thu, 29 May 2008 19:59:29 +0000 http://behindthegrammar.com/?p=10#comment-13 fantastic post. nothing revolutionary or new. yet it needs to be said. now it just needs to be read. @paulie_walnuts fantastic post. nothing revolutionary or new. yet it needs to be said. now it just needs to be read.

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]]> By: Greg Galant http://behindthegrammar.com/2008/05/balls-all-over-the-floor/comment-page-1/#comment-12 Greg Galant Thu, 29 May 2008 19:57:18 +0000 http://behindthegrammar.com/?p=10#comment-12 Great article! Love the line "Notice that there are two problems here—people not delivering and my reaction to it." It's amazing how little a handshake or promise means to so many people in business. Good advice on how to cope. I find you have to just work with a whole lot of people to figure out who delivers and who's just all talk. Great article! Love the line “Notice that there are two problems here—people not delivering and my reaction to it.”

It’s amazing how little a handshake or promise means to so many people in business. Good advice on how to cope. I find you have to just work with a whole lot of people to figure out who delivers and who’s just all talk.

]]> By: Whitney Hoffman http://behindthegrammar.com/2008/05/balls-all-over-the-floor/comment-page-1/#comment-11 Whitney Hoffman Thu, 29 May 2008 19:39:27 +0000 http://behindthegrammar.com/?p=10#comment-11 I couldn't agree with you any more on these points. As an organizer of several Podcamp events, I know that I need to depend on other people to follow through as they have promised. There have certainly been times when someone has not followed through as expected or in a reasonable time frame, and I beat myself up about it, thinking if I only had better people management skills, it would have been better. In the end, it makes you a bit more wary about trusting others sometimes, especially with "mission critical" items, but then you gradually learn you can't do it all and have to learn to trust others. But if someone doesn't follow through as promised, they also aren't entitled to infinite second chances- second chance is a singular, not plural thing. I am glad to see others feel this way- I always thought it was my lawyer side that demanded that people just do what they said they were going to do, or at least inform you if it becomes an impossibility- leaving someone waiting on you or standing on the proverbial alter, is unfair, and it erodes trust fast. I hope you have a better day tommorrow! I couldn’t agree with you any more on these points. As an organizer of several Podcamp events, I know that I need to depend on other people to follow through as they have promised. There have certainly been times when someone has not followed through as expected or in a reasonable time frame, and I beat myself up about it, thinking if I only had better people management skills, it would have been better.

In the end, it makes you a bit more wary about trusting others sometimes, especially with “mission critical” items, but then you gradually learn you can’t do it all and have to learn to trust others. But if someone doesn’t follow through as promised, they also aren’t entitled to infinite second chances- second chance is a singular, not plural thing.

I am glad to see others feel this way- I always thought it was my lawyer side that demanded that people just do what they said they were going to do, or at least inform you if it becomes an impossibility- leaving someone waiting on you or standing on the proverbial alter, is unfair, and it erodes trust fast.

I hope you have a better day tommorrow!

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